Duties of the married state!

The next two question is what most new born Christian man or woman tend to ask in their desperate time of need, or when they are in despair; concerning the affairs of their married state. What is to happen to our partner [spouse] that don’t wish to follow us in the way of the Lord our God? Exactly what can be done of this issue, and just who can we turn too?

Basically, simple, and understandable questions that do rise with most couples who are going through the some tough times, and in, or similar type of issues: when one is righteous and the other is of the world. Many do contemplate and become very perplexed to the point of giving in, or giving up: one thing for certain, we do have commandments that tells us what we are to do, and what not to do; when in this situation: they are there to console us and to encourage us as well (1Co.7:10-11)And unto the married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, let not the wife depart from the husband: but and if she depart, let her remain unmarried, or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife. It also goes without saying that for those who are weak in faith will eventually follow in the path of the stronger spouse: to satisfy the other, or to get them off their back, and to stop all the bickering.

When in doubt, and things are not going the way we would rather have it go, and it appears that the situation is eventually getting even worse, and that it feels that we have failed some how some way: it brings us to one of the strongest question we would have to face. What do I do, and what can I do to please that person? This is when disaster strikes to the point that the evil one will persist to avail against the righteous person to return back to their sinful life as it was before they committed themselves to God.

According to the scriptures this is what does happen; because it is true to the letter of the outcome of this situation, and it states this in the Apostle Paul’s first letter to the Corinthians when he is speaking to them of what are the duties of the married state should be (1Co.7:33)But he that is married cares for the things that are of the world, how he may please his wife. This of course, is one among many reasons as to why it is very important to be a righteous person in the presence of God: one who is committed to the Lord, and wants nothing other than doing what is right in the sight of God: In other words we as children of God need to be content with what we have, and what has already been give and expect nothing more. Besides this, lets read what the Apostle Paul tells the Corinthians concerning the difference of, and what is between spouses on this very issue: towards the basis of each others duty(1Co.7:12-16).

On the other hand, this is what we are taught in the message that the Apostle Paul spoke of concerning the duties of married couples: apart from being content we also need to flee from any form of fornication in order to honor our spouse, or better half if you will(1Co.7:2-5). Its is given [marriage] to us for our pleasure: to please one another; as we are to become as women servants, and menservants towards one another, for the satisfaction of each others needs. What we need to realize is that we must give to one another as what is to be expected from one another in return: based on the foundation of love, only God‘s true love, and not the love that is of this world.

So, as long as we remain faithful towards one another there is no inclination that we are doing anything wrong in the eyes of God; seeing how He has joined us as one; when we were before twain: which is considered Holy matrimony (Matt.19:4-6)Have ye not read, that He which made them at the beginning made them male and female, and said. For this cause shall man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh? Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let no man put asunder.

One thing for sure is that we must not give satan and his demons of this world the opportunity to interfere with our relationship in any possible way. This goes even more so to the act of fornication that will eventually lead to adultery; and we are commanded not to do so or to entreat one another treacherously (Mal.2:15)And did not He make one? Yet had He the residue of the spirit. And wherefore one? That He might seek the godly seed. Therefore take heed to your spirit, and let none deal treacherously against the wife of his youth.

In any case, what we need to do, is, we need to be devoted one with the other, and to remain faithful towards one another, and yet, even more so to our Heavenly Father. Now, one thing that is very prudent for all to know is that if we are single, and can not contain ourselves it is better if we are married than to burn in hell (1Co.7:9)but if they cannot contain, let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn. Only at the same time we need to behave in a very seemly way that is convenient for both spouses: respectfully, faithfully, and with unity, with devotion, and compromising everything with one another. There is two things that need special attention in the eyes of God: and its this, the woman must always be under submission to her husband; if she wants everything go even better, because satan will not have any leeway of interfering, so long as the righteous person is doing everything right in the sight of God: this also goes towards the righteous husband; that he needs to love his wife to avoid any conflicts.

If we read on, in the first letter of the Corinthians of the Apostle Paul; we will also read what we have been discussing: everything is written in the confines of the Holy word of God, so, lets see what else is there to know (1Co.7:26-29). For certain, what we have read, do read, and will continue to read is that everything that is written in the word of God is for the benefit of the reader and hears: to know precisely what is to be expected at any given time. For example: within a marriage as well as within this world we are commanded to try to live peaceably with everyone including our spouses (Ro.12:18)If it be possible, as much as lies in you, live peaceably with all men. If we do not do as we are commanded we will be faced with consequences that we really don’t wish to be in (He.12:14)Follow peace with all men, and holiness [the sanctification], without which no man shall see the Lord.

By all means lets not be ignorant of what is written in the glorious word of God for instance: (2Co.7:1)Having therefore these promises, dearly beloved, let us cleanse ourselves from all filthiness [defilement] of the flesh and spirit, perfecting holiness in the fear of God.

Exactly, what can happen if we disregard what we are being commanded; should always be in our set mind for the purpose of urgency. Along with the encouragement; we are given consequence that will unfold soon enough, and this can be found in (1Pe.3:7)Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honor unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered. As for our wives being considered the weaker vessel this is what the Holy Spirit thru Paul said in reference (1Co.12:23)And those members [parts] of the body, which we think to be less honorable, upon these we bestow more abundant honor; and our uncomely parts have more abundant comeliness.

The bottom line is that we men of God need to love our wives like there is no tomorrow: lets take a good look at the reality of it: our salvation depends on this type of love; that is the love that comes from God (Eph.5:25)Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it.(Col.3:19)Husbands love your wives, and be not bitter against them. (Eph.5:28)So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loves his wife loves himself.

Well, we have read some of what is in store for the state of the married couples of the do’s and don’t as well as the what’s and what not’s. When all has definitely failed and the marriage is nullified because the act of fornication [adultery]; and there is no sign of reconciliation, what needs to be done is perhaps one of the saddest things in this world. A decree of divorcement must be filed; not only within the laws of this world, but with the spiritual laws of God, and this was describes by our Lord Jesus Christ in (Matt.5:31-32)It has been said, whosoever shall put away his wife, let him give her a writing of divorcement: but I say unto you, that whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causes her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced commits adultery.

All I now is that we as couples must try to do the very best with ourselves and not destroy what God has put together in holy matrimony. Most people of this world do have the tendency of assuming they have control of their lives: when in reality we don’t, we are either being controlled by the Father of lights, or the father of darkness; and they are the only two options that people of this world have, have had, and will have for the rest of ones life. The point that I wish to get across is that when you, we as a child of God are dealing with a non-believer and wish not to have any dealings with what we have, and are faced with; or what is coming from the unbeliever that’s okay! Its all in Gods hand‘s, and we therefore need to obey everything that is written therein for our benefit and the benefit of the other (1Pe.3:1-2)Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation [behavior] of the wives; while they behold your chaste conversation [behavior] coupled with fear.

If the woman and the man being righteous in the sight of God; we are, and should not worry to much with what is going on with the other, and not be distracted by the other for no reason at all. The demons of this world will always try to interfere somehow, someway, and create some form of schism between the spouses. That is why we need to ignore what ever is being thrown at us; because we will at times become overwhelmed by the non-believers actions, gestures, and comments. Lets remember that we have been forewarned many times of the consequences of being married: living by the ways of this world (1Co.7:28)but and if thou marry, thou has not sinned; and if the virgin marry, she has not sinned. Nevertheless such shall have trouble [tribulation] in the flesh: but I spare you.

Among other issues that will occur during one’s marriage we are also told not to over do it to the point that we can loose track of what we are doing, and eventually be in a situation we don’t wish to be: we know that we are married, but lets not exaggerate the idea, and this is what we are told on this point of view (1Co.7:29)but I say, brothers, the time is short [shortened]: it remains, that [that henceforth] both they that have wives be as though they have none.

Why, one would ask? As I have said earlier there mustn’t be any distraction between our relationship with God and His kingdom, and all His righteousness. Here is some of the examples that we are given in the since of distraction; because it is a distraction! (1Co.7:31-35). As we know, all of what our Father expects from us, is to obey His will not our own; as do the inhabitants of this world: its very clear as to why we are told this. For one, lets look at what is out there in this world of the married state: arguments, and bickering over the stupidest things, violent domestic crimes, spouse abusers, adulterers, hate, dehumanizing, inconsiderate of children within the marriage, divorces, and so on.

I truly believe that what we all need is the counseling that can only come from the word of God, and only from the word of God. I ask, just how is a person of this world going to help a child of God; when the professional therapist, or counselor is of this world: there is going to be a severe difference in beliefs between the righteous person and that person, so, forget about that idea, and stick to true words of encouragement. He who has ears to hear take heed to what the glorious word of God has to say to those who are married and obey!

This goes even more so to the children of God, for the benefit of our salvation as well for the other. We are given many commandments that we need to follow without prejudice, and not only selecting what we wish to select out of deliberate actions: meaning we can not use any of the scriptures to throw at our spouses face, because of their inconsistency when we are just as bad in not acting in a seemly way that is pleasurable in the sight of God.

As I have said before, we must flee from any, and all form of fornication; primarily, because our bodies do not belong to us anymore. Here is one example (1Co.6:15-20). Apart from this we also have many other things that are far more important for the married couples to obey. So, that we can rest assure that nothing will happen to our marriage: for instance in the book of Ephesians the Apostle Paul tells them what exactly are the duties of wives and husbands (Eph.5:21-33). Another example is what the Apostle Paul wrote in his letter to Titus as to what are the Christian duties; young and old alike, and it applies to men and women (Tit.2:1-8). As for the women of God, they are taught how to present themselves before God almighty. (1Ti.2:9-15).

These passages are just a few that pertain to those who are of the married state, and who belong to God. It is a very serious message that we all need to listen too, obey it, and live by it. May the good Lord bless us always, Amen!

I hope and pray that this lesson will help you in your time of despair, in your time of perplexity. Always remember that our Heavenly Father is aware of what we need, but its still up to us to ask Him for help. Our Father is grand, He is great, He is gracious, He is all about love. I will say this that any distraction can and will pull you away from His kingdom and righteousness, and we don’t want to do that. Remember what Paul told the Philippians pertaining to the salvation of God (Phil.2:12,13).